
The following story deals with my own struggles in America. It also deals with culture and rule of law. It all started with my wife her craving for buffalo wings.
There were a bunch of wings restaurants… Chantilly had Buffalo Wings Factory, Buffalo Wing University in Fairfax, Buffalo Wild Wings but out in Gainesville. There was also Glory Days, Hooters, Hard Times and a bunch of other restaurants. But I knew it was going to be expensive, usually coming out close a buck a wing. For that price, I can get $1 sushi or stuff off McD’s Dollar menu.
Hard Times Cafe in Fairfax said they had cheap wings on Wednesday nights… but today was Thursday. Next one. I call up Glory Days in Centreville and ask if they have any specials on Buffalo wings. The guy said yeah, they’re five bucks after nine. So Mommy G and I decide to make a run for it after the girls are asleep. We take a bath, get settled in bed, read a story, pray a bit and then it’s almost 11PM. I tell Mommy G, I’m gonna go get the wings. She says okay… cuz she’s still craving.
When I get there, I see a big sign saying $5 Appetizers after 9PM*… there is an asterisk next to the price… * dine in only. I think to myself “what should I do?” I literally ran through all the options.
Option 1. Negotiate dine in price to go (cuz it’s like saving a few bucks, a few dirty plates, and some time)
Option 2. Dine in, eat a couple and take the rest to go (cuz it’s like saving a few bucks)
Option 3. Buy at regular price to go (cuz it’s all about my wife)
I walk up, the host asks to sit me down. I ask him straight up, “Can I buy the buffalo wings to go but get the dine in price?” He says “No.” Okay next option. “Can I dine in, eat a few and take the rest to go?” Um you’ll have to order it from the bar and ask the bartender he says. So I go up to the bar. I ask the lady behind the bar the same question.
I opt to start with Option 1 again, just to clarify my intentions. “Can I buy the buffalo wings to go but get the dine in price?” “No” she says. “Can I dine in, eat a few and take the rest to go?” I pull out the sympathy card, “I have a wife and kids at home…” “I’ll have to ask the manager” she says. She leaves for a few minutes, talks with the manager, the manager comes out and gives me the schpeal. The price is for dine in only. I tell him, I have a wife and kids at home waiting for me. He tells me there are plenty of tables for them to come next time. I tell him, that’s fine, but in my mind, I was like, it’s 11PM at night, I ain’t taking any of my kids out that late. So I go straight to Option #2 “Can I dine in, eat a few and take the rest to go?” He hesitates, but ended up saying sure.
I sit back down at the bar, the lady asks me for my order. Okay, I’ll take two buffalo wings appetizers. Dine in. But I’m gonna only eat some and take the rest to go. She takes the order. Then she has this conference with the manager discussing the situation like football refs discussing a play. I guess this is not the standard practice. She comes back and tells me “we are making a huge exception for you.” I say thanks, didn’t know I was that special.

Anyways, the order comes on plates. The lady behind the bar makes sure they were on plates to designate I dine in… I give her the sign that I want to check out. She hands me two to-go boxes and the check. I scoop everything into the boxes and pay the bill (making sure I tip them enough) and head out. Feeling a bit embarrassed for going through all that trouble for a few bucks… but also feeling like I shouldn’t feel embarrassed for having done nothing wrong.
So here’s the thing, was I in the wrong? should it be okay to ask for the special price and not feel like the biggest jerk in the world for just asking? If I was in China there would have been no problems negotiating a price, but here at Glory Days this was definitely taboo… Should I have paid regular price and left it at that? Did I push the envelop too far by asking?
I did say “Thanks” when I left… because they made a huge exception for me. But I do know that I won’t expect the same treatment next time.